The first fear is extinction. Now, what does that mean? I'm going to die alone. What if I die and no one even knows? No one loves me. I don't matter to anyone. I could disappear, and no one would even care or notice. I'm irrelevant.
The second core fear is mutilation or bodily invasion. Now, that sounds pretty heavy, but let's break this down. We're talking about core fear of physical abuse from another or self,
for example, cutting, which, in those cases, refers to a qualified therapist or social worker. This is above my pay grade. It could also be PTSD from past relationships, and there is
a referral to a qualified therapist, if necessary if someone has experienced some physical
violation. Again, this could be physical or could even be emotional abuse as well, rape, incest. We want to refer you to a qualified therapist for anything

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The following core fear is a loss of autonomy. So, what's expected in this realm, and you can help with that, is in my scope to help as someone who tends to lose themselves in relationships, or they'll say, I feel smothered. I feel engulfed. It's like I can't breathe. They are so controlling. It's their way or the highway.
The following core fear is separation, abandonment, or rejection. So, they might say, I want to leave my partner, but what will people think if I do? Or if I tell my truth, I will lose love, I will
lose my family. He'll leave. She'll leave. If I am who I am, then you'll reject me.
And the last one is humiliation. So, I am disgusting. My body is repulsive. Who would want to be with me? I've failed at love. I don't know who I am without my partner or my family.
With all these fears in mind, it's understandable that relationships can sometimes feel tough.
But these are universal fears that can be conquered.
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